New Year's Resolutions - Taking the Pressure Off.
I’m not really the biggest fan of New Years resolutions. I find them stressful and then worry more when I don’t meet them. I’m sure that they work for a lot of people, but very rarely do I meet people who have achieved their resolution and been satisfied with their accomplishment after. They didn’t work for me and I don’t think that they do for everyone. In fact, I have seen people put themselves down when they haven’t met their goal for the new year.
But that’s not to say I don’t set out goals for myself and have things that I would like to do with the upcoming year. I just do it a bit differently to how I used to. It’s important that we keep festive periods in perspective and give ourselves space to breathe. These times of the year are not always easy for everyone, and the New Year doesn’t automatically mean that you are expected to forget about the past and start all over again, which very often isn’t possible for everyone.
So I like to make small goals throughout the year to tick off bit by bit… I don’t know about you but I find ticking things off very satisfying :D. I think breaking up a big goal can be really useful because it just takes a little bit of the pressure off to have to meet the requirements of the one goal immediately. And it means that we can work towards it in stages and look after ourselves at the same time. These are my 5 tips for setting your goals and being mindful over the next year:
1. Keep your goals realistic -
Don’t give yourself a short amount of time to achieve one whole goal, set small goals to work towards a bigger picture.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others -
The absolute worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others and what they are doing. Remember that we are all different and our minds work in different ways. Take things at your own pace.
3. Don’t put yourself down or be too hard on yourself -
You might not get to where you want to be all the time at each specific moment that you map out for yourself. That’s ok, life isn’t a race. Try not to get frustrated with yourself if you don’t get things they way you wanted the first time. You’ve got the time to pick yourself up and carry on.
4. Take Breaks -
Whatever you’re doing, whether it’s school or work, you must look after yourself to reach each of your goals. Take breaks from everything when you can, spend time with your friends, watch your favourite film, treat yourself. Just take your time.
5. Reward yourself -
Make sure you reward yourself each time you tick something off. Buy yourself a treat or do something special for yourself to recognise when you achieve something. I know this might sound a bit odd and it might even feel a bit awkward to do, but it is really important that you give yourself recognition. It will also encourage you to keep achieving your small goals which will lead to big results.
Thank you very much to everyone who has supported me this year, has shared and written blogs or supported on social media.
I wish everyone all the best for the 2020.
Remember to take things at your own pace and always be you.