Is sadness something to fear?
I’m going to start at the end. Sadness is natural. It is another feeling, just like happiness and joy and anger and excitement, sadness is something we all feel because we are all human, and yet, I’ve found myself in situations where I’ve tried to avoid feeling sad. I don’t know why, but something about it scares me, I mean we’d all much rather be happy than sad but what happens if we never feel sad? Would we be better off without it? Without that feeling?
Maybe I fear it because I’m worried about falling into that hole again. I mean there’s feeling sad and then there’s struggling with depression, which is more than sadness, and I guess I probably do fear falling back into the deep dark hole that I was once in.
But I think sadness is natural and I think we’d struggle a lot more without it. We need it to function, it’s almost part of our everyday emotions, to feel happiness and sadness, and fed up with everything sometimes, that’s all ok, that’s how we were made. It’s about managing our emotions and knowing how to feel in control of them so that they don’t become too much to handle. Losing control of sadness can become damaging because it can lead to more challenges with our mental health, so it is really important to make sure that with any emotion, we don’t bottle everything up and we have an outlet for expressing how we feel.
We all have mental health, and our mental health needs to be balanced to keep it healthy. So sadness is not a word or an emotion to fear, or to feel embarrassed to say you feel, it’s ok. We should really allow ourselves to feel more. Stop resisting your feelings and instead pour them into something you love. I always go back to dance when using examples in my own life. Dance has always let me put however I’m feeling in that moment into my movements, and that makes me fear negative emotions a lot less. It makes me feel more in control and it makes the process of feeling a certain way more natural.
It’s ok to feel sad and to cry and to want to punch a pillow because everything has built up in your head to the point that you just need to get it out. It is ok.
I think there is an element of fear attached to ‘negative’ emotions but I think that emotions become negative when they become uncontrollable and start consuming your everyday life. That’s when they become unhealthy. Feeling sad everyday is not positive and when it starts becoming harmful to your life, something does need to be done.
But we all feel sad, it’s not a bad thing, it's a human thing. Let yourself feel.